Things You Can Do For Your Kids That Will Make A Big Difference

Parenting encompasses everything from restless nights and temper tantrums to navigating the complexities of tweens and teens. It's not just a lot—it can feel downright overwhelming. Yet, amidst the chaos and challenges, it's crucial to remember that even when you think you're stumbling and faltering, your actions today can profoundly impact your child's life and your bond with them.

Engage in imaginative Play with Books.

A study from Japan suggests that imaginative play can positively influence children in that it not only aids in emotional and social development but also potentially enhances reading skills. So, gather some stuffed animals, toy food items, or action figures and indulge in imaginative play. It's an opportunity for meaningful bonding with your child while they learn valuable lessons in turn-taking, sharing responsibilities, and inventive problem-solving. Again, making time for daily reading sessions with your children starting from infancy is paramount. However, understand that how you read—your intonation, the modulation of your voice, and the emotions you convey—holds as much significance as the storyline and illustrations in a book.

Embrace the Cuddles.

Despite many opinions circulating on social media, a study in Applied Developmental Science reveals that you can't overdo it by cuddling your baby. After surveying over 600 adults, researchers discovered that those who received additional physical affection and support from their parents during childhood tended to grow into happier and more compassionate adults with lower levels of anxiety.

For those of us who've encountered criticism or opposing views from friends, family, or even medical professionals regarding the notion of "spoiling" babies through excessive holding, there's reassuring news backed by science: you can't cuddle your newborn too much. Touch is pivotal in a baby's development and significantly benefits brain development. Studies on mammalian development illustrate that primate infants prioritize physical closeness over seeking food. Essentially, scientific evidence underscores that, for babies, touch is comforting and essential for their well-being, even being considered life-saving.

Plan a Vacation—or Staycation!

British research suggests that family vacations have lasting positive effects on a child's emotional well-being, extending well beyond the duration of the trip. According to the study's participants, these cherished memories serve as "happiness anchors," providing solace during difficult times. John McDonald, the study's author and director of the Family Holiday Association, emphasizes that it's not about extravagant destinations; rather, the key is simply being together away from home. I've found that any movement—whether it's taking a walk or driving—often helps kickstart conversations with our children, which can be quite useful at times. Despite our close relationship, genuine dialogue can be challenging amidst the constant distractions that permeate our lives. (Sound familiar?) Those rich, flowing conversations can sometimes feel like a scarce commodity in today's fast-paced world.

Swap Time-Outs for Quality Time.

According to Meghan Walls, Psy.D., a pediatric psychologist in Wilmington, Delaware, providing your child with the attention they crave may reduce the need for frequent time-outs. It could be as straightforward as having a bedtime chat or involving your child in cooking tasks (even toddlers can help crack eggs). Block out some free time in your schedule and plan an enjoyable activity. You could try painting pottery, visiting the library, or having a picnic lunch at the playground. Remember, Quality Time isn't measured by duration or cost; it's about the experiences you share and the memories you create together. Spending just 10 minutes a day engaged in one-on-one activities reinforces positive behaviour and fosters a strong bond between you and your child. This not only lowers the risk of mental health issues and substance abuse during the teenage years but also sets the foundation for a healthy relationship.

Share Moments with Your Selfie Stick.

Engaging in fun selfie sessions together, whether experimenting with funny Snapchat filters or capturing tender moments, can boost happiness and foster a positive self-image, as indicated by a small study in the Psychology of Well-Being. Not only will you both reap the rewards, but you'll also create a treasure trove of memorable family photos.

Peter Mugi Kuruga | Counseling Psychologist/Marriage and Family Therapist