Should I Start Therapy?

A common question people ask when contemplating starting therapy is, "Is this such a big deal to be going to therapy about it?" In therapy sessions, some clients minimize their concerns because they don't think it has reached the threshold of "therapy-worthiness".

Here's the thing: one's need for therapy is entirely subjective. Yes, there are common issues for which people would go to therapy, such as relationship/family conflict, emotional instability, workplace stress, processing grief, or recovering from past trauma.

However, sometimes, people need to discuss their experiences with a therapist when the issues are vague. Here are some examples.

"I know it's not a big deal, but it's bothering me."

The truth is, it's best to address seemingly minor concerns at the get-go. These are the issues that, if left ignored, can become chronic and immensely more problematic. Also, the issue may seem small, but it could be signalling deeper, more nuanced concerns that can appear in multiple other areas of your life. I always tell clients, "If you feel you need to be here, chances are you're right."

"Is this normal?"

When experiencing something new, particularly as it relates to your mental/emotional well-being, it's very easy to question the validity of your experience. Therapy is a space that can provide greater insight and knowledge related to your experience while validating your concerns. It is intended to be a safe space that helps remind you that you're not alone and don't have to go through the experience alone.

"I've been feeling a little 'off' lately."

Sometimes, getting a mental health check-up is good when you've noticed a shift in your temperament and mood. This is especially true if you've recently experienced small or significant change(s). We're not always able to label what we feel or notice, but we know it's changing how we interact with the world. Speaking with a therapist will help you get to the core of what this experience means for you and support you to help you manage it.

"Other people say they've noticed I've been different, but I don't see it."

Changes in our disposition may not be noticeable to us, but it may be noticeable to others, particularly those closest to us. If you've heard others suggest that the changes they see appear to be impacting your day-to-day life negatively, it may help to talk to someone else about it.

"I'm good - I just want to stay balanced."

Some people go to therapy without having any presenting concerns at all. In this case, therapy is seen as more preventive and/or a way of maintaining good mental health. And this is healthy!

If you feel you or someone you know could benefit from therapy, check your local listings for a therapist or a community counselling organization that may be right for you.

FAQ

Why should I seek therapy when my problems aren't considered 'significant'?
No problem is too insignificant if it's affecting your peace of mind. Therapy affords a fresh perspective and can arm you with strategies to manage your concerns better, no matter how small they may seem.

What does 'preventive' therapy mean?
Just like a regular health check-up, 'preventive' therapy serves to maintain your mental well-being. It helps reinforce emotional resilience and skill sets to tackle potential future challenges.

Why should I consider therapy if I feel 'okay'?
Therapy isn't just about solving problems. It's also about exploring yourself in a safe space, fostering personal growth, and building emotional resilience.

I feel 'off', but I cannot pinpoint why.
Many people don't know why they feel sad . This could indicate that something is amiss subconsciously. Therapy can help you dive deeper, determine the root cause , and equip you with coping mechanisms.

I don't see any change in my behaviour, but others have noticed a difference. What should I do?
Even though this isn't a definitive sign that you need therapy, if others' observations are causing you concern, it might be helpful to talk over these perceived changes with a therapist.