Ms Didem Sagiroglu
Family Therapist
“A therapist working with young people and couples in their identity and relationship issues in order to assist clients to bring about transformational change in their personal "iceberg" : feelings, learned rules, expectations, to achieve emotional maturity to align self-worth with congruent communication with others.”
About Me
Approach
I am an individual, couple, and family therapist. My primary training is in Transformational Systemic Therapy model developed by Virginia Satir. A client unit can be an individual, or a couple’s relationship, or family interpersonal interactions. I facilitate to assess the client unit layer by layer, to discover how the underlying selves are experienced and which aspects should be developed with regards to the issues the clients present. These can be emotions, other emotions or self-judgement when our feelings conflict with our upbringing experiences or societal norms, perceptions, the way in which we make sense of life in our values, beliefs, assumptions, rules to follow, and expectations of ourselves and others.
When client(s) is/are operating from an inner true self based on awareness and acceptance, lasting chances can occur. In this model’s approach we focus on interpersonal communication patterns to assess individual approaches to different situations or people. When being understood is difficult or scary we may use "survival stances" to protect ourselves. In therapy, I will assist you to achieve personal “congruence”, ie matching your communication to your thinking and feeling, processed and comprehended regarding your unique past, to gain congruence in the client unit. Well being is a means of making meaningful and authentic connections, rising from each individual’s self-worth and recognition of the other’s self-worth. Additional therapy goals are for clients to become better decision makers and be more responsible in their life choices.
Services
Individual Therapy
The therapy focuses on achieving "congruence" in the client's feelings and behaviors.
Some areas of inquiry may be: (not limited to)
Do I say and do what I mean and feel?
I am interested in understanding my upbringing on my present. Do I have uncovered, unresolved issues that keep me from fully experiencing now? How do I relate to my family of origin?
Living fully is making contact with myself and others. What are better ways to make this happen?
When confronted with a threat, disagreement, what are my learned reactions to different people, situations?
Am I in contact with my feelings? Can I name them and experience them through sensations. Are they guides or hurdles for me, or both? Can I use them to speak for myself in my relationships?
As part of a growing self, are there new understandings to be made on my past, parts of me to let go, or better coordination of all of the parts that make me who I am.
Couple Therapy
The therapy will focus on the couple's "relationship" as a client unit.
A couple relationship may be the most rewarding and challenging at the same time. You may feel you have fallen out of love, commitment, common goals, or struggle to keep your individuality while you share a life with your partner, adjust to new roles such as planning for children, let alone more difficult times of infidelity. If you want to rebuild trust, and grow despite your differences, therapy will be a safe environment to explore your differences and find new ways of relating, aligning.
In your relationship you may together or individually think, feel, experience...
Seeing the effect of my personal issue on my partner…Which personal issues of which partner effect our current unsatisfaction in our relationship?
How do we each experience our relationship?
Is a better way to our resolve disagreements? What are our underlying differences in our approach to resolve our conflicts?
Are we running in circles in our disagreements? Can we have less misunderstandings, try better ways to express ourselves in our relationship?
I want to keep my individuality while sharing with my partner. How can we each do this better?
How do we keep our intimacy alive?
How can we be open and honest with each other, and be comfortable in our vulnerability?
How can we work through challenges that our choices will bring onto our status quo?
Family Therapy
The therapy look at the "family interactions" as a way to support or identify interactions around an issue.
How does our family rally? How do we hear and listen to each other?
What are our family's values? Do we all share the same values?
Do we have smaller alliances within our family unit. How does that effect us individually?
When one of us need help, how can we ask for or offer support? What are our resources individually and collectively?
Services Offered:
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Psych & Diagnostic Assessment
Formal psychological testing to identify conditions, understand cognitive and emotional functioning, and guide treatment planning.
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Advocacy
Services that help individuals navigate healthcare, education, or social systems to ensure their mental health needs are recognised and met.
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Relationship Counseling
Counselling for couples or partners focused on improving communication, rebuilding trust, and strengthening emotional connection.
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Online Therapy
Therapy sessions conducted over video call, phone, or secure messaging, using the same professional methods delivered remotely.
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Counseling
A form of talk therapy providing a safe, confidential space to explore feelings, thoughts, and behaviours with a trained professional.
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Family Therapy
A form of therapy that works with family members together to improve communication, resolve conflict, and strengthen relationships within the family system.
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Individual Therapy
One-on-one therapy sessions between a client and a therapist, focused on that person's specific concerns and goals.
Learn more about Individual Therapy
Works With:
- •Adults
- •Couples
- •Elderly
- •Families
- •Individuals
Area of Expertise
Scope of Practice:
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Life Transitions
Major life changes, such as relocation, retirement, parenthood, or career shifts, that disrupt routine and require psychological adjustment.
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Behaviour or Conduct Issues
Persistent patterns of defiant, aggressive, or rule-breaking behaviour in children or adolescents that significantly disrupt home, school, or social life.
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Relocation / Expat
The psychological challenges of moving to a new country or city, including loneliness, culture shock, identity shifts, and loss of social support.
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Forgiveness
The psychological process of releasing resentment or anger toward someone who has caused harm, a complex emotional journey rather than a simple decision.
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Relationship Issues
Difficulties in romantic relationships, including communication problems, trust breakdowns, conflict patterns, or uncertainty about the relationship's future.
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Personal Development
The ongoing process of self-awareness, self-improvement, and reaching one's potential, pursued not because something is wrong but to live more fully.
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Pregnancy & Fertility Issues
The emotional and psychological dimensions of pregnancy, fertility treatment, pregnancy loss, or the transition to parenthood.
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Relationship Counseling
Counselling for couples or partners focused on improving communication, rebuilding trust, and strengthening emotional connection.
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Self-Esteem
A person's overall sense of their own worth and value. When chronically low, it can drive self-doubt, avoidance, and difficulty in relationships.
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LGBTQI+ Support
The unique psychological experiences of LGBTQI+ individuals, including identity exploration, coming out, discrimination, minority stress, and relationship dynamics.
Professional Title:
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Family Therapist
A therapist trained to work with couples and families to improve communication, resolve conflict, and strengthen relationships.
Qualifications
Boğaziçi University
Bahçeşehir University
Satir Institute of the Pacific
Virginia Satir Human Development and Family Therapy Institute
Tavistock Institute of Human Relations
Registrations
Ministry of Education
Family Counsellor