The Sexual Harassment scandals are MORE THAN JUST ABOUT SEX.

Past: Women did not have a voice
Recent past: Women found their voice and said " F- U"
Today: Women have their voice and it now time to say: "let’s work together".

If they aren't about sex, what are they about?

They are about...

• Arrogance vs Shame,
• Grandiosity vs Low Self-esteem,
• Being 1-up vs 1-down.

The solution is about finding a path to equality, balance, oneness and a willingness to grow into the one we are meant to be.

Here are some signs of this inequality. When someone does these things they are acting in a 1-up position.

• Sexual harassment (of course)
• Interrupting (chronic)
• Ignoring(chronic)
• Breaking of agreements (chronic)
• Making their needs more important
• Verbal abuse
• Emotional abuse
• Physical abuse
• Chronic teasing
• Inability to hear your feelings
• Inability to hear your needs
• Inability to hear your wants
• Flying into a rage when you are making a complaint about something they did
• Telling you what you want to hear to get what they want with no behaviour change.
• Making everyone's needs more important than yours.

The ANSWER TO this and EVERY PROBLEM is: SO RIDICULOUSLY SIMPLE.

The answer to all challenges: Accept that we are all equal to one another, not better than or less than but equal.
~ humans have trouble understanding this truth because in our survival brain, we hear that being equal is dangerous.

Typically, a child learns to act in shame or grandiosity.

They learn this by either being empowered to do it, by watching their parents do it or by having it done to them.

Let’s look at both sides of this erroneous coin.

• Going one down is about shame and believing there is something wrong with oneself at the core.\

• Going one-up is about grandiosity and arrogance and those who live here have this belief wired into their survival brain that they “must be” better than or they will not survive. (repeat)!!

This is why it is so hard to change these beliefs because our little lizard brain tells us we must hold these beliefs in order to survive.

There is a better way.

It means going into our higher brain or as I teach the kids I work with, being willing to connect to our Wizard brain.

Both positions are survival adaptations.

The adaptation of thinking we are less than, causes us to live our lives looking for the one thing, the one degree, the one person, the one book, that will, in fact, make us no longer deficient but will make us equal to all others.

Challenge here is that those who believe there is something wrong with them are living from a false premise: THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH THEM, that something outside of them will heal them. They need to be willing to correct the original adaptation that they are less than, correct this, connect to the truth of who they are and then learn to live from this place. This is easier said than done.

The other adaptation of thinking we are better than causes us to live our lives in deep pain because of isolation. The Better than position makes this person think that those around them are inferior, and thus makes it hard to relate to them.

So how can we ever get to a place of equality?

There are two steps to this process of moving toward equality.

1. Find inner oneness which means we become willing to accept all parts of ourselves. We must Be willing to accept that each one of us is born with unique gifts and each one of us has challenges. PERIOD. If we are willing to accept that we are gifted, uniquely gifted, we then must be willing to accept that we have challenges. And, often it is in the overcoming of the challenges that we find our gifts.

2. Find outer oneness with all of our brothers and sisters, and then be willing to learn to be "equal to", and learn to communicate from this place of equality.

The way to inner and outer oneness is, of course, a healing journey. And, we not only can do this, but we also must!

The Sexual Harassment scandals are MORE THAN JUST ABOUT SEX.

Past: Women did not have a voice
Recent past: Women found their voice and said " F- U"
Today: Women have their voice and it now time to say: "let’s work together".

If they aren't about sex, what are they about?

They are about...

• Arrogance vs Shame,
• Grandiosity vs Low Self-esteem,
• Being 1-up vs 1-down.

The solution is about finding a path to equality, balance, oneness and a willingness to grow into the one we are meant to be.

Here are some signs of this inequality. When someone does these things they are acting in a 1-up position.

• Sexual harassment (of course)
• Interrupting (chronic)
• Ignoring(chronic)
• Breaking of agreements (chronic)
• Making their needs more important
• Verbal abuse
• Emotional abuse
• Physical abuse
• Chronic teasing
• Inability to hear your feelings
• Inability to hear your needs
• Inability to hear your wants
• Flying into a rage when you are making a complaint about something they did
• Telling you what you want to hear to get what they want with no behaviour change.
• Making everyone's needs more important than yours.

The ANSWER TO this and EVERY PROBLEM is: SO RIDICULOUSLY SIMPLE.

The answer to all challenges: Accept that we are all equal to one another, not better than or less than but equal.
~ humans have trouble understanding this truth because in our survival brain, we hear that being equal is dangerous.

Typically, a child learns to act in shame or grandiosity.

They learn this by either being empowered to do it, by watching their parents do it or by having it done to them.

Let’s look at both sides of this erroneous coin.

• Going one down is about shame and believing there is something wrong with oneself at the core.\

• Going one-up is about grandiosity and arrogance and those who live here have this belief wired into their survival brain that they “must be” better than or they will not survive. (repeat)!!

This is why it is so hard to change these beliefs because our little lizard brain tells us we must hold these beliefs in order to survive.

There is a better way.

It means going into our higher brain or as I teach the kids I work with, being willing to connect to our Wizard brain.

Both positions are survival adaptations.

The adaptation of thinking we are less than, causes us to live our lives looking for the one thing, the one degree, the one person, the one book, that will, in fact, make us no longer deficient but will make us equal to all others.

Challenge here is that those who believe there is something wrong with them are living from a false premise: THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH THEM, that something outside of them will heal them. They need to be willing to correct the original adaptation that they are less than, correct this, connect to the truth of who they are and then learn to live from this place. This is easier said than done.

The other adaptation of thinking we are better than causes us to live our lives in deep pain because of isolation. The Better than position makes this person think that those around them are inferior, and thus makes it hard to relate to them.

So how can we ever get to a place of equality?

There are two steps to this process of moving toward equality.

1. Find inner oneness which means we become willing to accept all parts of ourselves. We must Be willing to accept that each one of us is born with unique gifts and each one of us has challenges. PERIOD. If we are willing to accept that we are gifted, uniquely gifted, we then must be willing to accept that we have challenges. And, often it is in the overcoming of the challenges that we find our gifts.

2. Find outer oneness with all of our brothers and sisters, and then be willing to learn to be "equal to", and learn to communicate from this place of equality.

The way to inner and outer oneness is, of course, a healing journey. And, we not only can do this, but we also must!