Stella

Mrs Stella Redman, MSc

Psychologist

Verified

“Sometimes life, relationships, or parenting can leave us feeling overwhelmed, disconnected, or unsure how to move forward. I offer individuals, couples, and parents a warm and supportive space to make sense of what is happening and find a way forward that feels right for them.”

About Me

I am an integrative psychologist and counsellor working with adults, young people, and couples in English and Russian. I support people experiencing anxiety, relationship difficulties, low self-esteem, grief, emotional overwhelm, and significant life changes, as well as the particular challenges that can come with migration, intercultural relationships, and building a life away from home. People often come to therapy knowing that something does not feel right but finding it difficult to explain exactly what is happening. Others may understand their patterns very well intellectually, yet still feel unable to change them. You do not need to arrive with everything clearly understood or know where to begin. We can make sense of it together, at a pace that feels manageable. My style is warm, engaged, and collaborative. I will listen carefully and without judgement, but I will also share observations, ask thoughtful questions, and gently challenge patterns when this may be helpful. I believe that the relationship between therapist and client is an important part of the work, and I aim to create a space in which you can feel safe enough to be honest, curious, and fully yourself.

Approach

My approach is integrative and informed by systemic thinking, meaning that I do not expect one therapeutic model to suit every person or every difficulty. I draw primarily from person-centred, psychodynamic, cognitive-behavioural, attachment-based, emotion-focused, and systemic approaches, adapting our work to your needs, personality, circumstances, and goals. A systemic perspective helps us look beyond the individual and consider the wider context of your life—including your relationships, family, culture, community, and the different roles you hold. Together, we may explore how earlier experiences and relationship patterns continue to influence the way you feel, relate to others, and respond to situations today. We may also work more practically with difficult emotions, unhelpful beliefs, communication, boundaries, coping strategies, or recurring relationship patterns. Rather than focusing only on reducing symptoms, I am interested in understanding what those symptoms may be communicating and what needs or experiences lie beneath them. The aim is not to tell you how to live, but to help you develop greater self-understanding, emotional flexibility, and freedom to make choices that feel more authentic and supportive of the life and relationships you want.
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Services

I offer individual therapy for adults and young people, couples counselling, and support for parents. Areas I commonly work with include: • Anxiety, panic, and persistent worry • Feeling overwhelmed, emotionally exhausted, lost, or stuck • Relationship and communication difficulties • Couples experiencing conflict, distance, or recurring patterns • Intercultural relationships and cultural differences within couples • Low self-esteem, self-criticism, and people-pleasing • Boundaries and difficulty expressing needs or emotions • Grief, loss, separation, and relationship breakdown • Life transitions, identity, and questions of meaning or direction • Migration, loneliness, cultural adjustment, and living away from home • Childhood and family experiences that continue to affect adult life • Parenting difficulties and family relationships • Trauma and distressing life experiences Sessions are available in English and Russian, online and in person in The Hague.

Services Offered:

  • Counselling

    A form of talk therapy providing a safe, confidential space to explore feelings, thoughts, and behaviours with a trained professional.

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  • Individual Therapy

    One-on-one therapy sessions between a client and a therapist, focused on that person's specific concerns and goals.

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  • Psychoeducation

    Structured information provided about a mental health condition (what it is, why it occurs, and what strategies can help) as part of the therapeutic process.

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  • Brainspotting

    A therapy that uses fixed eye positions to access and process unresolved trauma stored in the brain and body.

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  • Online Counselling

    Counselling conducted via video, phone, or secure messaging, providing professional support remotely.

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Works With:

  • Couples
  • Families
  • Individuals
  • Parents
  • Groups
  • Adults

Area of Expertise

Scope of Practice:

  • Cross-Cultural

    The psychological challenges of living between two or more cultures, including identity conflicts, acculturation stress, and difficulties with belonging.

  • Depression

    A mood disorder marked by persistent low mood, loss of interest or pleasure, and changes in energy, sleep, or appetite that impair daily functioning.

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  • Family Issues

    Difficulties within the family system, including conflict, communication breakdown, blended family tensions, or intergenerational patterns, that affect individual and collective well-being.

  • Grief, Loss & Bereavement

    The emotional, physical, and psychological response to the death of a loved one or another significant loss, varying widely in duration and expression.

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  • Guilt or Forgiveness

    Persistent feelings of guilt, shame, or difficulty forgiving oneself or others that weigh on emotional well-being and relationships.

  • Identity & Self-Image

    A person's sense of who they are, including their values, beliefs, roles, and self-perception, and the distress that arises when this sense is unclear, fragmented, or negative.

  • Life Transitions

    Major life changes, such as relocation, retirement, parenthood, or career shifts, that disrupt routine and require psychological adjustment.

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  • Parenting Support

    Guidance for the psychological challenges of raising children, including discipline, communication, co-parenting, and managing the emotional demands of parenthood.

  • Relationship Issues

    Difficulties in romantic relationships, including communication problems, trust breakdowns, conflict patterns, or uncertainty about the relationship's future.

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  • Relocation / Expat

    The psychological challenges of moving to a new country or city, including loneliness, culture shock, identity shifts, and loss of social support.

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Professional Title:

  • Psychologist

    A professional trained to assess and treat mental health conditions using evidence-based psychological methods.

Credentials

Qualifications

MSc Psychology

St Mary’s University, London

Year: 2023

Counselling Skills Certificate

University of Glasgow

Year: 2024

Essential Skills Diploma in Counselling Children and Young People

Essential Training, UK

Year: 2025

Certificate in Brainspotting

BSP UK

Year: 2025

Memberships

Netherlands Institute of Psychologists (NIP)

Full Member

Membership: NIP number 247527

British Psychological Society (BPS)

Graduate Member

Membership: GMBPsS 716335

Service Areas

In-person

Leidschenveen-Ypenburg

Den Haag, Zuid-Holland 2492 ZA

Netherlands

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Leidschenveen-Ypenburg, Den Haag, Netherlands