Shay

Shay Rees-Davies

Sexologist

“I am dedicated to supporting individuals & couples through the complexities of relationships and sexuality, and in navigating the profound impact of trauma. Whether you're seeking to heal, discover, or express your authentic self, I provide a humanistic approach that focuses on embracing your personal truth.”

About Me

I am a sexologist and counsellor based in Scottburgh South, KwaZulu-Natal, South Africa. I treat relationship issues, abuse, anger, cross-cultural conflicts and divorce. I provide psycho-legal support, trauma counseling and sex therapy.

Approach

My work centres on helping people reconnect to their values and bodies after shock or conflict, shaping therapy around what matters most to you. From my base in Scottburgh, KwaZulu‑Natal and online in English, sessions are paced to your rhythm and steadily held. We move between grounding practices, practical skill‑building and clear safety planning, with space for advocacy-focused discussion or preparation for legal processes when relevant. Those navigating cultural tension, rupture or questions about sexuality often find this steady, practical companionship helpful.
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Basic Information

In-person & Online

Services

Psychosomatic Support for: Sexual Dysfunction and Pain Disorders Compulsive Sexual Behaviors Relationship Conflict Resolution Navigating Perimenopause Sexual Trauma Overcoming shame (associated with religious indoctrination, substance abuse, compulsive/risky sexual behavior) Exploring Sexual Identity (including sexual orientation, gender identity, gender expression, gender roles) Stress & Anxiety Forensic Reporting for RAF cases (South Africa only) Facilitation of workshops (corporate & private)

Services Offered:

  • Psycho-Legal

    Psychological assessment and expert reporting for court proceedings, legal disputes, or regulatory matters.

  • Advocacy

    Services that help individuals navigate healthcare, education, or social systems to ensure their mental health needs are recognised and met.

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  • Conflict Management

    Structured approaches to resolving disputes and improving communication between people in conflict, whether in relationships, families, or workplaces.

  • Counseling

    A form of talk therapy providing a safe, confidential space to explore feelings, thoughts, and behaviours with a trained professional.

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  • Trauma Counseling

    Counselling specifically for people affected by traumatic events, focused on processing what happened and reducing symptoms like flashbacks and hypervigilance.

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  • Sex Therapy

    Specialised therapy addressing sexual concerns such as low desire, performance anxiety, pain during sex, or mismatched needs between partners.

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  • Somatic Psychotherapy

    A form of therapy focused on the connection between mind and body, using body awareness and movement to release held tension, trauma, and emotion.

  • Online Therapy

    Therapy sessions conducted over video call, phone, or secure messaging, using the same professional methods delivered remotely.

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  • Personal Development

    The ongoing process of self-awareness, self-improvement, and reaching one's potential, pursued not because something is wrong but to live more fully.

Works With:

  • Adults
  • Communities
  • Couples

Area of Expertise

Scope of Practice:

  • Relationship Issues

    Difficulties in romantic relationships, including communication problems, trust breakdowns, conflict patterns, or uncertainty about the relationship's future.

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  • Abuse

    Emotional, physical, or sexual mistreatment by another person that causes lasting psychological harm and disrupts a person's sense of safety.

  • Addiction

    A compulsive dependence on a substance or behaviour, such as alcohol, drugs, or gambling, that causes harmful consequences to health, relationships, or daily life.

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  • Anger

    An intense emotional response to perceived threat, injustice, or frustration that, when persistent or uncontrolled, can damage relationships and well-being.

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  • Cross-Cultural

    The psychological challenges of living between two or more cultures, including identity conflicts, acculturation stress, and difficulties with belonging.

  • Divorce Counseling

    Counselling for individuals or couples going through separation or divorce, addressing the emotional, practical, and relational dimensions.

  • Psycho-Legal

    Psychological assessment and expert reporting for court proceedings, legal disputes, or regulatory matters.

  • LGBTQI+ Support

    The unique psychological experiences of LGBTQI+ individuals, including identity exploration, coming out, discrimination, minority stress, and relationship dynamics.

  • Relationship Counseling

    Counselling for couples or partners focused on improving communication, rebuilding trust, and strengthening emotional connection.

  • Trauma

    The lasting psychological impact of deeply distressing events, such as violence, abuse, accidents, or disasters, that overwhelm a person's ability to cope.

    Learn more about Trauma

Professional Title:

  • Sexologist

    A professional who studies and provides guidance on human sexuality, including sexual health, identity, and relationships.

Credentials

Registrations

Council for Sexual Health Professions

Counsellor; Sexologist

Qualifications

Academy for Sexology (International)

Memberships

Council for Sexual Health Professions (CSHP)

Full Member

Membership: 21001

European Federation of Sexology (EFS)

Full Member

Service Areas

Scottburgh

In-person & Online

Scottburgh South

Scottburgh, KwaZulu-Natal

South Africa

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