Marriage Is Not a Destination, It’s A Journey

Got engaged? “It’s the best time of life”, is what everyone who is married would say. There is a lot that needs to be done. A long endless to-do list. In an attempt to get things done, one tends to miss the fun of the process of getting married. A lot of couple’s experience stress, anxiety, lack of time to spend with each other, lack of communication…

Couples fail to understand that good marriages result from hard work, dedication and overcoming failures. Healthy relationships come because two individual people are walking a path of wholeness together.

Young couples and those beginning to look for potential spouses can create realistic expectations for marriage by talking with their parents or other couples who have been where they are or will be. While single, people can learn to see marriage as a journey and realize that having a family or being married isn’t going to solve all of their problems.

One should know that it’s the first step towards a new life. Marriage is a process to live happily together forever rather than a goal to achieve. Couples might feel that we truly love & understand each other, we don’t need to go for counselling. Why do I need some outsider when I have mentors, family, friends, well-wishers to guide me, why seek professional help?

The therapist always remains impartial. They create a level of safety in the counselling room for both partners to freely express their thoughts, opinions and feelings. A counsellor doesn’t judge & maintains confidentiality.

Relationships of all kinds take effort, work and dedication. Marriage doesn’t instantly transform you into a perfect individual. For beginning a commitment such as marriage, couples counselling is helpful because it can help each partner address their thoughts, concerns, and expectations for the partnership. Premarital counselling or couple counselling can help partners form and develop a healthy relationship from the beginning.

In long term commitments like Marriage, Pre-Marital counselling is believed to offer benefits to all couples. It can help partners to better understand their expectations about marriage and address any significant differences in a safe and neutral environment.

Pre-Marital counselling is an opportunity for couples to address potential conflict areas in their relationship. Counselling before marriage enables couples to prevent petty issues from becoming a crisis and also helps them recognize their expectations from each other in the marriage & know each other’s strengths & weaknesses.

This type of engagement with a qualified professional provides couples with an opportunity to work through their most difficult or emotionally challenging problems. Premarital counselling is generally recommended for all couples, even those with a relationship untroubled by significant issues.

It is observed that major divorce happens during the first seven years of married life. It is also observed that couples experiencing difficulty wait an average of six years before seeking professional help.

Counselling with a trained therapist helps the couple to address all the areas like:

# Emotions

# Communication

# Finance

# Career

# Household

# Sex & Intimacy

# Family & Friends

# Children

# Religion

# Beliefs / Culture / Values

Happiness isn’t determined by how quickly you get married or how perfect your marriage is. Happiness comes from working hard to accomplish the things that you desire and being open to new avenues and opportunities that cross your path. Life is full of disappointments, heartbreaks and plans that don’t work out.

While single, dating or married, you should continue to improve yourself and work to switch your mindset from outcome-based to journey-based. Doing so will help you build a life of fulfilment and contentment.

Welcome to the marital life with love, care, joy, happiness, Respect, Trust, compassion….

ENJOY THE JOURNEY TOGETHER !!!