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#Advice, #Anger, #Relationships Updated on Jul 22, 2021
Professional therapist, Mrs. Strondl, provides mental health services in Cape Town, focusing on assessments and counseling.

Mrs Delia A. Strondl

Registered Counsellor

Cape Town, South Africa

Although we would largely prefer to avoid confrontation, it will come up.

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Nobody enjoys confrontation. There may be people for whom not addressing a problem is more uncomfortable than the confrontation itself, but no one looks forward to it. Despite this, it is something we of all ages must do on a regular basis, and make no mistake the child confronting a sibling and the employee confronting a boss are equally as difficult for the individual involved.

There are two important aspects to this topic: planning and defining.

Here is an example of a personal situation where I failed to plan. We have had very noisy, party happy neighbours for the past two years. On one night these neighbours were particularly loud and I ventured outside to confront them, sans planning. My request for them to keep the noise down was met with multiple vulgar slurs. While the confrontation was over in mere seconds, nothing was resolved.

Had I planned my argument I would not have chosen this particular time (2am); the venue (the street); the circumstances (a drunken party) or my frame of mind (sleep deprived). Admittedly, we cannot guarantee the perfect scenario but planning will at least reduce the possible negative outcomes. Had I planned my confrontation I would have chosen a more suitable afternoon time (not the morning as this group tend to rise later) and invited them to my home where I feel more confident and relaxed (and could practice my line of reasoning in the actual space). There is no assurance my request for quiet after midnight will be met, however, I will have been pro-active about a problem I have and would not have received a drunken retort.

I have used many synonyms for “confrontation” above, some appear aggressive and others less so. The way you define this term for yourself will contribute to how confidently you approach your issue. If you define it as someone wronging you, you are likely to be more antagonistic. If you define it as a misunderstanding, you are likely to be more composed. By no means should a misunderstanding have any less weight than an outright wrong.

Once a topic has been poorly confronted it is very difficult to revisit it later as the confrontee will have a bitter or trivial memory of the first attempt. A bitter recollection immediately places them on the defensive, while trivialising the event puts them in a position to dismiss the topic before your argument can be brought forward. This is not to say if the initial encounter went abjectly the whole topic should be discarded; rather state out right that your first attempt did not come across well and you’d like to revisit the matter.

Defining the problem in a way that fits with your values and practicing what you want to say can make all the difference in how successfully your confrontation goes and ultimately the likelihood of a favourable resolution.




Professional therapist, Mrs. Strondl, provides mental health services in Cape Town, focusing on assessments and counseling.

Delia A. is a qualified Registered Counsellor, based in Plumstead, Cape Town, South Africa.

With a commitment to mental health, Mrs Strondl provides services in English, including Assessment, Assessment (Children), Assessment (Developmental), Counselling (Career), Counselling (General), Ukraine Aid and Psychoeducation.

Mrs Strondl has expertise in Burnout, Career Issues, Emotional Overwhelm, Learning Disabilities, Parenting Issues, Relationship Problems (Marriage), Relationship Problems (Parent-Child), Retirement and Vocational Assessment.

Click here to schedule a session with Mrs Strondl.





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