Dr Pamela Udoka, PhD

Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

verified by TherapyRoute

“ Dr. Pamela Udoka is a licensed Clinical Psychologist, Relationship/Marital and Sex Therapist helping mature individuals and couples heal deeply, reconnect emotionally, and live balanced, psychologically healthy lives at home, at work, and in life. She is also a Public Speaker Family Therapist that deploys employee assistant protocols in organizations and Author of the book, "THE PLEASURE MANUAL" which can be purchased online at www.selar.com/thepleasuremanualsoft. ”

About Me

This experienced Clinical Psychologist and Sex Therapist offers a grounded space for matured adults, married couples, and families. She guides clients through mental health concerns and sensitive conversations, helping to explore relationship dynamics and sexual health concerns. Sessions foster clearer communication and deeper understanding. Clients find a thoughtful listener ready to strengthen connections and navigate life's complexities.

Approach

With people seeking clearer connection and understanding, I guide sessions that move at a steady, respectful pace, balancing direct dialogue with reflective listening. This is done after clinically assessing the clients individually. In Lagos, Abuja or online, sessions must be booked and appointments scheduled. Each session is shaped around the immediate concerns of the clients, using assessments and structured conversations to bring to the surface, patterns tied to anxiety, depression, emotional dysregulation, trauma or sexual difficulties and to set small, practical steps between sessions. I collaborate on communication skills, safety planning and gradual exposure where needed, tracking changes together. This approach suits people and relationships seeking thoughtful, practical progress.

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Basic Information

Lagos, Nigeria

Services

Dr. Pam is trusted for her ability to integrate emotional regulation, sexual health, and relational therapy, helping adults and couples function optimally across marriage, work, parenting, and life transitions.

Services Offered:

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Relationship Counseling
Counselling for couples or partners focused on improving communication, rebuilding trust, and strengthening emotional connection.
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Wellness Support
Holistic support focused on overall well-being, including stress management, lifestyle balance, and building sustainable healthy habits.
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Online Therapy
Therapy sessions conducted over video call, phone, or secure messaging, using the same professional methods delivered remotely.
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Psych & Diagnostic Assessment
Formal psychological testing to identify conditions, understand cognitive and emotional functioning, and guide treatment planning.
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Family Therapy
A form of therapy that works with family members together to improve communication, resolve conflict, and strengthen relationships within the family system.
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Sex Therapy
Specialised therapy addressing sexual concerns such as low desire, performance anxiety, pain during sex, or mismatched needs between partners.
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Counselling
A form of talk therapy providing a safe, confidential space to explore feelings, thoughts, and behaviours with a trained professional.
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Divorce Counselling
Counselling for individuals or couples going through separation or divorce, addressing the emotional, practical, and relational dimensions.
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Trauma Counselling
Counselling specifically for people affected by traumatic events, focused on processing what happened and reducing symptoms like flashbacks and hypervigilance.
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Works With:

•Families
•Individuals
•Couples
•Organisations
•Parents
•Groups

Area of Expertise

Scope of Practice:

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Abuse
Emotional, physical, or sexual mistreatment by another person that causes lasting psychological harm and disrupts a person's sense of safety.
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Anxiety
Persistent worry, nervousness, or fear that is disproportionate to the situation and interferes with daily functioning.
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Mood Disorder
A category of mental health conditions, including depression and bipolar disorder, in which a person's emotional state is significantly and persistently disrupted.
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PTSD
Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, a condition that develops after a traumatic event, causing flashbacks, nightmares, hypervigilance, and emotional numbness.
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Relationship Counseling
Counselling for couples or partners focused on improving communication, rebuilding trust, and strengthening emotional connection.
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Relationship Issues
Difficulties in romantic relationships, including communication problems, trust breakdowns, conflict patterns, or uncertainty about the relationship's future.
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Sexual Issues
Difficulties related to sexual functioning, desire, identity, or behaviour that cause distress or interfere with relationships.
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Trauma
The lasting psychological impact of deeply distressing events, such as violence, abuse, accidents, or disasters, that overwhelm a person's ability to cope.
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Professional Title:

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Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
A therapist licensed to work with couples and families on relationship difficulties, communication, and family dynamics.

Qualifications

Doctor of Philosophy

Doctorate

University of Ibadan

Year: 2025

Registrations

Nigerian Association of Clinical Psychologists (NACP)

Clinical Psychologist (Scientist/Practitioner),Clinical Psychologist,Licensed Clinical Psychologist,Psychosexual Therapist,Psychotherapist,Sex Therapist,Family Therapist

Service Area

Family Wellness Therapy Centre

In-person & Online

Lekki

Lagos, Lagos

Nigeria