Lily

Ms Lily Lu

Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

“An experienced, empathic and enthusiastic clinician who loves working with adolescents and adults as well as couples and families.”

About Me

When life feels complex, this experienced clinician offers warm, empathic support. They enthusiastically guide adolescents, adults, couples, and families to navigate challenges. Sessions provide a collaborative space to explore emotions and strengthen connections. This approach helps clients build clearer communication and foster more resilient relationships. It’s about finding practical ways forward for everyone.

Approach

I blend gentle curiosity with practical focus, moving between emotional exploration and small, achievable steps that fit family and adolescent lives. In San Jose and online, in English or Mandarin, sessions are paced to you—sometimes reflective, sometimes action-oriented—and often include brief between-session experiments to try new communication or coping approaches. When trauma, addiction, or anxiety appear I pair structured tools with relational attention to calm distress and rebuild trust. Those juggling parenting, school, or relationship strain tend to find this way of working steady and useful.
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Basic Information

In-person & Online

Services

Services Offered:

  • Child / Adolescent Therapy

    Therapy for children and teenagers using age-appropriate methods, such as play, art, or adapted talk therapy, to address emotional and behavioural difficulties.

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  • Counseling

    A form of talk therapy providing a safe, confidential space to explore feelings, thoughts, and behaviours with a trained professional.

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  • Pain Management

    Psychological approaches to chronic pain that address the emotional, cognitive, and behavioural dimensions of living with persistent pain.

  • CBT

    Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, a structured, evidence-based approach that identifies and changes unhelpful thinking patterns and behaviours.

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  • EMDR

    Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing, a therapy that uses guided eye movements to help the brain process and integrate traumatic memories.

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  • Family Therapy

    A form of therapy that works with family members together to improve communication, resolve conflict, and strengthen relationships within the family system.

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  • Individual Therapy

    One-on-one therapy sessions between a client and a therapist, focused on that person's specific concerns and goals.

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  • Relationship Counseling

    Counselling for couples or partners focused on improving communication, rebuilding trust, and strengthening emotional connection.

  • Sex Therapy

    Specialised therapy addressing sexual concerns such as low desire, performance anxiety, pain during sex, or mismatched needs between partners.

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  • Imago Relationship Therapy

    A couples therapy approach based on the idea that relationship conflicts are rooted in unmet childhood needs, using structured dialogue to improve understanding and connection.

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Works With:

  • Adolescents
  • Adults
  • Couples
  • Families
  • Parents

Area of Expertise

Scope of Practice:

  • Abuse

    Emotional, physical, or sexual mistreatment by another person that causes lasting psychological harm and disrupts a person's sense of safety.

  • Addiction

    A compulsive dependence on a substance or behaviour, such as alcohol, drugs, or gambling, that causes harmful consequences to health, relationships, or daily life.

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  • Anger

    An intense emotional response to perceived threat, injustice, or frustration that, when persistent or uncontrolled, can damage relationships and well-being.

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  • Anxiety

    Persistent worry, nervousness, or fear that is disproportionate to the situation and interferes with daily functioning.

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  • ADHD / Attention

    A neurodevelopmental condition involving persistent difficulty with attention, impulsivity, and/or hyperactivity that interferes with daily functioning.

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  • Mood Disorder

    A category of mental health conditions, including depression and bipolar disorder, in which a person's emotional state is significantly and persistently disrupted.

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  • Relationship Issues

    Difficulties in romantic relationships, including communication problems, trust breakdowns, conflict patterns, or uncertainty about the relationship's future.

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  • Parenting Support

    Guidance for the psychological challenges of raising children, including discipline, communication, co-parenting, and managing the emotional demands of parenthood.

  • Trauma

    The lasting psychological impact of deeply distressing events, such as violence, abuse, accidents, or disasters, that overwhelm a person's ability to cope.

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Professional Title:

  • Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

    A therapist licensed to work with couples and families on relationship difficulties, communication, and family dynamics.

Credentials

Registrations

California Board of Behavioral Sciences

LMFT

Qualifications

John F Kennedy University

Service Areas

Mind Health Services

In-person & Online

San Jose, California

United States