Kate

Ms Kate Heavey

Relationship Therapist

“Do you feel that you keep having the same conversation with someone you care about yet nothing changes? Are you unable to move past uncomfortable feelings such as sadness, regret, guilt, shame, resentment or anger? Maybe there is a loss that everyone thinks you should let go or that you should have moved past? I am an online and telephone therapist working with individuals, couples and twos. Together we work on relationship patterns, loss, bereavement and alcohol misuse. We will look at how your learnt way of being in the world shapes how you love, speak up and relate. I am a relational counsellor and psychotherapist. ”

About me

People tend to come to me when a way that used to work no longer does. It might be within a relationship dynamic, a way of coping such as people pleasing or withdrawing, or it may be how you got through your day. This way of being would have made sense once. It is there for a reason yet now it has you in a level of distress which is why you find yourself here. I am a firm believer that what is learnt can be unlearnt, if you want to. I have worked online and by telephone since 2014. Clients tell me I am friendly, nurturing and tentatively challenging. I am a therapist who is very real and present and I will say what I notice, with care. I work with individuals, couples and twos. Twos are any two people in relationship who need to find a new way to connect, such as family, friends or colleagues.

Approach

Sessions are online or by telephone, at the same time each week which means you have your slot and so can go at a pace that suits you. In our conversations, I will encourage you to notice what is happening inside you before you react, before your behaviour or thought comes. We will look at the story you tell yourself. We will look at your learnt way of being in the world. This may be about what you learnt about love, safety or speaking up. We will honour all of your learnt behaviours and subtly look to move them into healthier ways of relating where you can feel seen, heard and connected. One of my philosophies is that we get injured in relationship and we heal in relationship. You matter and the relationships we form, including our working relationship, also matter.
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Basic information

Languages:

English

Fees:

Direct payment

Online Only

Services

You might come to me because you and your partner keep falling out over the same things, or you have experienced a significant death or loss and life feels flat, or lonely. It might be a drink habit that you, or someone who loves you, is worried about. Maybe your childhood still shapes how you feel about yourself and you are confused as to why change feels so hard. There might be behaviours such as saying yes when you mean no or withdrawing when you feel unheard. Whether it is anxiety, trauma, work stress, low mood, feeling not good enough, affairs, separation or divorce, I may be the therapist for you.

Services Offered:

  • Divorce Counseling

    Counselling for individuals or couples going through separation or divorce, addressing the emotional, practical, and relational dimensions.

  • Relationship Counseling

    Counselling for couples or partners focused on improving communication, rebuilding trust, and strengthening emotional connection.

  • Free Consultation

    A no-cost initial session to meet the therapist, discuss needs, and decide whether they are the right fit before committing.

  • Psychoeducation

    Structured information provided about a mental health condition (what it is, why it occurs, and what strategies can help) as part of the therapeutic process.

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  • Psychotherapy

    In-depth therapeutic work that explores patterns in thoughts, emotions, and relationships to produce lasting psychological change.

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  • Individual Therapy

    One-on-one therapy sessions between a client and a therapist, focused on that person's specific concerns and goals.

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  • Relationship Counselling

    Counselling for couples or partners focused on improving communication, rebuilding trust, and strengthening emotional connection.

  • Online Therapy

    Therapy sessions conducted over video call, phone, or secure messaging, using the same professional methods delivered remotely.

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  • Online Counselling

    Counselling conducted via video, phone, or secure messaging, providing professional support remotely.

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  • Integrative Psychotherapy

    An approach that draws on multiple therapeutic models, tailored to the individual, rather than following a single method.

Works With:

  • Adults
  • Couples
  • Elderly
  • Individuals
  • Organisations

Area of expertise

Scope of Practice:

  • Relationship Issues

    Difficulties in romantic relationships, including communication problems, trust breakdowns, conflict patterns, or uncertainty about the relationship's future.

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  • Grief & Loss

    The emotional, physical, and psychological response to the death of a loved one or another significant loss.

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  • Relationship Counseling

    Counselling for couples or partners focused on improving communication, rebuilding trust, and strengthening emotional connection.

  • Codependency

    A relational pattern in which a person's sense of identity and self-worth becomes excessively tied to caring for or controlling another person, often at their own expense.

  • Alcohol Use / Addiction

    A pattern of alcohol consumption that has become harmful to a person's health, relationships, or ability to function day-to-day.

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  • Anxiety

    Persistent worry, nervousness, or fear that is disproportionate to the situation and interferes with daily functioning.

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  • Grief, Loss & Bereavement

    The emotional, physical, and psychological response to the death of a loved one or another significant loss, varying widely in duration and expression.

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  • Divorce Coping

    The emotional upheaval of separation or divorce, including grief, anger, identity disruption, and the challenge of restructuring family life.

  • Guilt or Forgiveness

    Persistent feelings of guilt, shame, or difficulty forgiving oneself or others that weigh on emotional well-being and relationships.

  • Inadequacy

    A persistent inner sense of not being good enough, often rooted in early experiences and manifesting as self-doubt, comparison, or avoidance.

Professional Title:

  • Relationship Therapist

    A therapist specialising in couple and relationship difficulties, working to improve communication and emotional connection.

Credentials

Qualifications

Bachelor of Arts (Honours) in Counselling

University of Greenwich

Year: 2015

Foundation Degree in Science (FdSc)

University of Greenwich

Year: 2014

Advanced Certificate in Relationship Therapy

COSRT

Year: 2020

BACP Accreditation

BACP

Year: 2017

Memberships

British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP)

Counsellor / Psychotherapist

Membership: 093164

Service Areas

Harmonious Counselling

Online Only

Faversham

United Kingdom

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