Ilana Pilcz, MA

Licensed Mental Health Counselor

“Hi, I’m Ilana, a trauma-informed, attachment-focused IFS therapist based in New York City and licensed in both New York and New Jersey.”

About me

I draw from attachment theory, IFS, Gottman Method, and somatic mindfulness to help you understand your patterns and build secure, deep relationships, both with yourself and with others. This process builds the inner security that lets you stay connected to yourself, even when things feel uncertain, and to others, even when it feels vulnerable.

Approach

Therapy with me feels like a real conversation: warm, curious, and collaborative, a space where you can finally take a breath. No silent nods or blank stares; just two humans exploring what it means to feel safe, seen, and understood. Together we slow down and listen to the parts of you that have been holding it all together. My style blends humor, mindfulness, and practical insight so you can move from self-criticism toward genuine self-trust and connection. Therapy is a space to come back to yourself. Together we make room for your thoughts, your body, and your emotions to meet in one place. I offer sessions in person in Midtown Manhattan and online, helping you reconnect with your Self and move through life with more steadiness and ease.

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Basic information

Languages:

English

Fees:

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New York, United States

In-person & Online

Services

Services Offered:

Individual Therapy
One-on-one therapy sessions between a client and a therapist, focused on that person's specific concerns and goals.
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Internal Family Systems
A therapy model that views the mind as made up of distinct sub-personalities or 'parts', each with its own role, and works to help these parts communicate and heal under the leadership of a core Self.
Couples Therapy
Therapy for partners working on communication, conflict, intimacy, and trust, with both people seen together rather than individually.
Psychodynamic Therapy
A therapy that explores how past experiences and unconscious patterns shape current feelings, relationships, and behaviour.
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Free Consultation
A no-cost initial session to meet the therapist, discuss needs, and decide whether they are the right fit before committing.
Individual Psychotherapy
In-depth one-on-one therapy that explores the deeper roots of a person's difficulties, often drawing on psychodynamic or psychoanalytic models.
Online Therapy
Therapy sessions conducted over video call, phone, or secure messaging, using the same professional methods delivered remotely.
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Works With:

Adults
Couples
Individuals

Area of expertise

Scope of Practice:

Relationship Counseling
Counselling for couples or partners focused on improving communication, rebuilding trust, and strengthening emotional connection.
Anxiety
Persistent worry, nervousness, or fear that is disproportionate to the situation and interferes with daily functioning.
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Career Issues
Work-related difficulties such as chronic dissatisfaction, conflict, burnout, uncertainty about direction, or the stress of career change.
Codependency
A relational pattern in which a person's sense of identity and self-worth becomes excessively tied to caring for or controlling another person, often at their own expense.
Identity & Self-Image
A person's sense of who they are, including their values, beliefs, roles, and self-perception, and the distress that arises when this sense is unclear, fragmented, or negative.
Parenting Support
Guidance for the psychological challenges of raising children, including discipline, communication, co-parenting, and managing the emotional demands of parenthood.
Relationship Issues
Difficulties in romantic relationships, including communication problems, trust breakdowns, conflict patterns, or uncertainty about the relationship's future.
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Self-Esteem
A person's overall sense of their own worth and value. When chronically low, it can drive self-doubt, avoidance, and difficulty in relationships.
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Stress / Burnout
The body and mind's response to prolonged or excessive demands. When sustained, it can lead to emotional exhaustion, detachment, and reduced functioning (burnout).
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Women's Issues
Psychological challenges more commonly experienced by women, including gender-based stress, reproductive health concerns, body image, caregiving burden, and societal expectations.