Dr Benjamin R. Tong

Psychotherapist

“Existential psychoanalytic psychotherapy, PTSD, transitions, relationship issues, emotional conflict, life & executive coaching.”

About Me

I offer integrative psychotherapy, guiding you through significant life transitions, relationship complexities, and deep emotional conflicts. Drawing on existential psychoanalytic approaches, we explore underlying patterns and find meaning in challenging experiences. This blend helps you gain clarity and develop practical strategies. Whether addressing past trauma or seeking direction through life and executive coaching, clients find a supportive space to move towards a more fulfilling life.

Approach

From that foundation, therapy unfolds as a collaborative inquiry where we slow down to notice patterns, feel connections, and name what matters to you. Sessions in San Francisco or online, conducted in English, balance measured reflection with concrete tasks between meetings so work continues in daily life. We use close listening, gentle interpretation, trauma-aware pacing and coaching-style problem solving to address relationship strain, burnout, identity shifts and lingering wounds. People seeking clarity, steadier relationships, or renewed direction often find this practical yet reflective approach helpful.

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Basic Information

San Francisco, United States

Services

Services Offered:

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Relationship Counseling
Counselling for couples or partners focused on improving communication, rebuilding trust, and strengthening emotional connection.
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Psychoanalysis
An in-depth therapy that explores unconscious patterns, early experiences, and inner conflicts to produce lasting psychological change, typically involving frequent sessions.
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Psychotherapy
In-depth therapeutic work that explores patterns in thoughts, emotions, and relationships to produce lasting psychological change.
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Works With:

•Adults
•Couples

Area of Expertise

Scope of Practice:

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Life Transitions
Major life changes, such as relocation, retirement, parenthood, or career shifts, that disrupt routine and require psychological adjustment.
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Cross-Cultural
The psychological challenges of living between two or more cultures, including identity conflicts, acculturation stress, and difficulties with belonging.
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Self-Esteem
A person's overall sense of their own worth and value. When chronically low, it can drive self-doubt, avoidance, and difficulty in relationships.
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Relationship Issues
Difficulties in romantic relationships, including communication problems, trust breakdowns, conflict patterns, or uncertainty about the relationship's future.
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Stress / Burnout
The body and mind's response to prolonged or excessive demands. When sustained, it can lead to emotional exhaustion, detachment, and reduced functioning (burnout).
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Trauma
The lasting psychological impact of deeply distressing events, such as violence, abuse, accidents, or disasters, that overwhelm a person's ability to cope.
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Young Adult Issues
The unique psychological challenges of emerging adulthood (18–25), including identity formation, independence, relationship navigation, and finding direction.
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Professional Title:

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Psychotherapist
A professional trained to provide in-depth therapy that explores patterns in thoughts, emotions, and relationships to produce lasting change.