Toxic POSITIVITY

Positivity is a practised feeling, or attitude, to bringing a good vibe of emotion to result in a negativity free inner self or environment or the outcome of our effort. Positivity is not born with us; instead, individuals build it along with their growth for betterment in life. Positivity brings good hope and energy to our daily life and thus makes a person stay out of all negative aspects of life. Therefore, everyone should cultivate positivity to make this world a better place to live in.

Everything or anything that is too much becomes miserable. So does positivity. It might be a great shock for people who genuinely believe in positivity to read the above fact.

Blind positivity is what has become Toxic Positivity. People who do not want to see reality believe that being positive, or thinking positive, can solve issues. Some of us have taken positivity to the next level where we do not want to accept that reality is a mix of both negativity and positivity.

What will you do if you are met with an accident, and your right hand is injured and if I ask you to be positive that your left hand is good instead of taking you to a hospital? You’ll wish that I should feel your pain and react accordingly. The same applies to your mind also.

These two (positive & negative) combined to make the reality.

People who don’t see negativity are of 2 types

• One is afraid to see and accept the negative part for a reason that has to do with their past.
• The second has learned to ignore negativity to get more positive results.
  

If you are in the 1st category, you should probably rethink why you ignore or run away from negativity. If you are afraid that you’ll face the same consequences from the past, know that not every day is the same day; not every second is the same. Not every success is the same. Nobody can outrun their destiny. Do you remember what Thanos said? ‘Dread from it. Run from it. Destiny still arrives’ It’s always better to stand and fight negativity than run from it.

Suppose you fall under the 2nd category, where you avoid negativity for no proper reason. In that case, I suggest you open up your eyes and see the reality instead of judging what is about to happen. For example, some of us might have a friend who hates being in a relationship after seeing their friend break up. It’s easy to judge anything just by seeing the outer picture, but it takes some guts to move closer and feel the presence of love. It applies to everything that we judge and not just love. If you have learned/forced to stay or run away from negativity, remember if there is positive energy, it is obvious there will be negative energy.

You can still be positive, hoping that the day will end good believing in your hard work and or in your God (if you do so). But if you ignore all those bad things that happened to you in the morning just because you wanted to be positive, then it’s clear that you are either afraid of negativity or don’t want to see the negative part for a reason.

Imagine you wake up in the morning and slip out of your bed, and your leg is hurt, you get ready for your work, and you have to travel a mile. You get stuck in heavy traffic, where you are delayed by 15 mins. You get out of the cab, rush to the main door and slip down, hurting yourself and someone near you. You somehow reach your chair and realize you forgot to bring an important file that you are supposed to bring on that day. Even after that, if you say that everything will end positively, you are blindfolded.

Do not ignore or run away from negativity, thinking that you are positive. It will affect you one day. You are trying to cheat yourself by doing so. Facing the problem and solving it is the permanent solution.