Inspiring Men on Father's Day
Happy Father's Day.
MARRIAGE WATCH 3 with Doccn
LET THEM BE’’
I consciously did not release Marriage Watch on Saturday as is my Custom, so that it will today coincide with Father’s Day. Here we go.
In every place of worship, I want men to pray with holy hands lifted up to God, free from anger and controversy – 1 Tim 2:8.
Apostle Paul knew that men are good at arguing knowledge things to the point of forgetting relevancy:
He knew men are apt to defend if threatened in any way;
He also knew that men can get angry and deliver some notable products of anger;
He wanted men not to miss out on the privilege of their calling as priests of God’
He was sure a reminder was necessary through another once timid man Timothy, exhorting and discipline him with much material for personal and spiritual growth that led to 1st and 2nd Timothy.
Today the call is the same, let men everywhere lift up holy hands without disputing or controversy; men can argue about football and end their friendships, they can argue about politics and end up with a ‘chekahukama’ sort of disagreement; men are men, but I implore the world, let them be.
Sometimes what kills or maims is what maketh a man; we need to be allowed to be; climbing a tree in the village to cut some firewood and falling delicately is not a mistake, we are trying to be men. Men means different, it means Father, Husband, Uncle, Grandfather, Bru, Chommie, Bambo, Indoda, etc. It means a lot to us to know the world recognize us; gone are the days.
A made broken by a woman to the point of surrender is no longer a man; a man broken by children, by society, by religion, by whatever is no longer a man. Please let them be. If a man has been told countless times that he is not a man, we are in error, man must resist and reject any interiorizing pacts or manifestos.
We now hear about men abusing women, men failing women, men failing children, men failing society, men failing religion (God) in my context, men failing the homes etc. It could be for one of many reasons, the one we can deal with this week is let them be – let men be men, in their risks and errors, let them be. A man often despised for his risks will stop taking them: stopping will nullify his creative or disruptive power that is energy for exploits. Let them be let them be.
This Father’s Day, remember my contribution, whoever you are: wife, wife to be, boyfriend, mother, priest or pastor, authority of any sort or subjects to any men – let them be.
Let them get dirty to bring food to the table, let him fall as mighty as it may to bring firewood to the village, let him be taken by the crocodiles fishing for his family, let him be laughed at tending his household, let them be, let them be.
As men how do we respond when they let us be? “Lifting up holy hands everywhere without disputing; in the house, in the factory, at the rugby stadium, in the political office, at work and at play; lifting up holy hands without disputing’’
1 Peter 2:16-17, King James Version
16 As free, and not using your liberty for a cloak of maliciousness, but as the servants of God. 17 Honour all men. Love the brotherhood. Fear God. Honour the king.
This pleases and honours the Lord, in blessing he will let us be, in promotion He will let us be, in trials and tribulations – He will carry us through as we live in obedience to our call to fatherhood. Like Abraham who took it to the gold, though Sarah could not let him be. Abraham had sufficient faith to receive Isaac, timing we are not told how and when he expected it to happen, but none can argue with him. Sarah could not let him be. Please let your Abraham be, let your man be……………… Do Not Kill His Faith, It Will Kill Him.
Being fully persuaded that God had power to do what He had promised." - Rom 4:21. God commended Abraham for his risk taking, why don’t we in this generation any more, we teach risks in many cycles, But In Practice – We Thwart Risks.
Why did God consider Abraham a righteous man? It was because Abraham looked beyond his own limitations of age and strength and considered God as the one who could accomplish His own goals. Abraham came to a place in his life where he realized it had little to do with him and all to do with God. His part was initiating the faith within himself.
Against all hope, Abraham in hope believed and so became the father of many nations, just as it had been said to him, "So shall your offspring be." Without weakening in his faith, he faced the fact that his body was as good as dead-since he was about a hundred years old-and that Sarah's womb was also dead. Yet he did not waver through unbelief regarding the promise of God, but was strengthened in his faith and gave glory to God (Rom 4:18-20).
What are the things in your life that are mere impossibilities? What are the mountains in your life? Are these there in order to build your faith in the one who can enable you to ascend to the peak? Once you know that it is His will for you to pursue, do it with faith. Faith requires action when we know it is He who is leading. It may require risk. Faith is sometimes spelled R-I-S-K. Abraham did not limit God. It is this confidence in God that God honored and rewarded. He wants to do the same with your Man – let him be this father’s day.
God’s idea may not be our idea, my idea may not be your idea, the world’s idea is not always the best idea, so let us be with sober judgment, allow our man to be. And Happy father’s Day must include an acceptance that:
- Risks will be taken,
Accidents will happen,
Lives shall be lived to the full,
Holy hands shall be lifted up to the Lord without disputing,
Jokes will have their limit,
Life shall be a call, a call to fatherhood.
Happy Father’s Day Men and Women of the earth’’
CL Nyaungwa SWC, June 20, 2021.
Cardwell is a qualified Family Therapist, based in Esther Park Ext 1, Kempton Park, South Africa.
With a commitment to mental health, Dr Nyaungwa provides services in English and isiZulu, including Conflict Management, Counselling (Career), Counselling (Marriage), Counselling (Religious / Spiritual), Employee Wellness Programme, Ukraine Aid, Relationship Counselling and Wellness.
Dr Nyaungwa has expertise in Abuse (Emotional / Physical), Adolescent Counselling, Career Issues, Death and Dying, Family Problems, Life Balance, Relationships and Marriage Problems and Workplace Issues.
Click here to schedule a session with Dr Nyaungwa.
Important:
TherapyRoute does not provide medical advice. All content is for informational purposes and cannot replace consulting a healthcare professional. If you face an emergency, please contact a local emergency service. For immediate emotional support, consider contacting a local helpline.
Find a Therapist
Find skilled psychologists, psychiatrists, and counsellors near you.
