Mrs Varsha Vashisthaw
Psychotherapist
“"Everyone can transform from the Ugly Duckling to the Real Swan you are meant to be" (ugly duckling is a fairy tale, please read it or watch it, the slogan will make sense then).”
About Me
Approach
I work using the core values and skills of Person Centred Approach; Emphaty, Congruence (genuine), Unconditional Positive Regard (stands for that each client has the right to be accepted and valued without any judgment or criticism, regardless of their thoughts, feelings, or behaviors).
I am a therapist who is Existential too, which means it get you to look @ these questions:
- Who Am I??
- What is my purpose in life??
- Freedom VS Responsabilities
- Getting old and death
- Loneliness
I work tailoring what the client requires, so I will use: *Cognitive Behavioural Therapy: Which really helps you to inderstand why do get those intrusive thoughts? how can you change the perception to a more anxiety free life and behaviour
* Transactional Analisys: Which helps you to inderstand your relationships, how to make sense of why are you repeating some patterns and avoid mind games and toxic people
* Attachment theory: Looks how you relate, trust people relationships, your treatment from childhood from you care givers and how it affected you (not Psychodynamic, which focusses more deeply to the past)
* Narrative therapy: Which is writting your life story as the best book written, movie or song and how you overcame challenges, how is your present and what type of future you will like to achieve
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Services
What do I love the most of this career?
The relationship that you develop with another human being which is honest, respectful and maybe the best one that you and I have ever experienced.
What inspired me to start working for myself, was the fact that I realised that agencies that offer the jobs in counselling are not following the same ethos that I believe. For example, 1) I feel that there is too much pressure in meeting targets for some companies, instead of then thinking about the needs and well-being of the clients.
2) The number of sessions (which is normally six to eight) are not tailored for every person, some need six sessions, while others need more.
3) Another factor that gets forgotten is that agencies provide the next available counsellor, without letting the client have a choice to find out what therapist he/she feels comfortable to share with.
As I believe that we all are different and to get the benefit of the healing process, both parties need to feel comfortable.
What makes me different?
I can speak four languages: Spanish, English, Hindi, Sindhi. Because of my cultural background (being raised with Indian values) in a western world, in this case, Spain. when I was old enough, I followed the tradition of getting married in an arranging method. I came to live in the UK with my husband (now very happily, divorced!) And I have been in the UK for the past 26years.
I have the first-hand experience of breaking those rules that did not favor me as a person but by being a "Rebel", it allowed me to start living on my own terms.
I would like to say that I am down to earth and I know how difficult life can be sometimes. Having my own life experience,(not just the theory) has made me learn.
I had been a client myself in a therapy room and I found it really hard to overcome my own demons and clear the skeletons from the wardrobe. Trust me, it was really scary and I needed to be brave.
So when you and I decide to work together I will be able to empathize with you, as a client not as someone above you, because I am human like you
Services Offered:
- •Advocacy
- •Counseling
- •Mindfulness
- •Online Therapy
- •Psychotherapy
Works With:
- •Adults
- •Individuals
- •Parents
Area of Expertise
Scope of Practice:
- •Abuse
- •Life Transitions
- •Anxiety
- •Grief & Loss
- •Stress / Burnout
- •Chronic Illness
- •Trauma Therapy
Professional Title:
- •Psychotherapist
Qualifications
South Essex College of Further and Higher Education
Registrations
British Association for Counseling and Psychotherapy (BACP)
MBACP