Tarisha Tourok, MCouns

Counsellor

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“I help couples stop having the same argument again and again, understand each other better and become lovers again. Emotionally Focused couples therapy and sex therapy in Ponsonby, Auckland, and online across New Zealand.”

About me

I’m passionate about supporting couples to create a deeply connected relationship and exciting physical intimacy. I bring Emotionally Focused Therapy and sex therapy together. I help you stop having that same argument again and again, understand each other better, and become lovers again. Many couples I see want more sexual fulfilment, experience sexual difficulties, or have a history of unwanted sexual experiences. My work is trauma-informed, and we go at a pace that feels safe for both of you. I don’t teach this only from books. My partner Mark and I know the dance of pursue and withdraw from our own experience, and we actively use these practices in our relationship. I know how painful that cycle is. I also know how good it feels when it changes. I developed the Sexually Empowered Radiant Woman Method, which brings together Eastern sacred sexuality teachings and Western psychotherapy. It gives women practical steps to connect with their sensuality and sexuality and enjoy fulfilling intimacy. I live in Titirangi, Auckland, New Zealand with Mark and two children. We love mountain biking, hiking and skiing.

Approach

I work with Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), a well-researched couples therapy based on attachment science. Together we find the cycle you keep getting stuck in, and you learn how to step out of it together. Your sex life shows how the relationship is going, so we work on sex as well. I’m a trained sex therapist, and my work is trauma-informed. I also bring in the body, through Hakomi somatic psychotherapy, because some things can’t be reached by talking alone. We go at a pace that feels safe for both of you.

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Languages:

English

Fees:

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Auckland, New Zealand

In-person & Online

Services

Couples therapy: weekly or fortnightly sessions, online or in person at Three Lamps Therapy, 2 Jervois Road, Ponsonby, Auckland. Private couples intensives: two or three days, 12 to 18 hours of therapy, the equivalent of about six months of private therapy. It can be very profound in a short time and is a really powerful way to improve your relationship. Couples retreats in New Zealand, led with my partner Mark: the Valentine’s Retreat: The New Chapter of Us, and The Wanaka Adventure in the Southern Alps. Sex therapy for couples, and individual therapy for women who want to reconnect with desire and pleasure.

Services Offered:

Couples Therapy
Therapy for partners working on communication, conflict, intimacy, and trust, with both people seen together rather than individually.
Sex Therapy
Specialised therapy addressing sexual concerns such as low desire, performance anxiety, pain during sex, or mismatched needs between partners.
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Free Consultation
A no-cost initial session to meet the therapist, discuss needs, and decide whether they are the right fit before committing.
Individual Therapy
One-on-one therapy sessions between a client and a therapist, focused on that person's specific concerns and goals.
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Online Therapy
Therapy sessions conducted over video call, phone, or secure messaging, using the same professional methods delivered remotely.
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Somatic Therapy
A body-centred approach to healing that uses physical awareness, breath, and movement to release stored tension and trauma, based on the recognition that the body holds and expresses emotional experience.
Relationship Counselling
Counselling for couples or partners focused on improving communication, rebuilding trust, and strengthening emotional connection.

Works With:

Couples
Adults
Individuals

Area of expertise

Scope of Practice:

Relationship Issues
Difficulties in romantic relationships, including communication problems, trust breakdowns, conflict patterns, or uncertainty about the relationship's future.
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Intimacy Issues
Difficulties with emotional or physical closeness in relationships, including fear of vulnerability, avoidance of connection, or sexual concerns.
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Women's Issues
Psychological challenges more commonly experienced by women, including gender-based stress, reproductive health concerns, body image, caregiving burden, and societal expectations.
Trauma
The lasting psychological impact of deeply distressing events, such as violence, abuse, accidents, or disasters, that overwhelm a person's ability to cope.
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Body Image
How a person perceives, thinks, and feels about their physical appearance. When persistently negative, it can drive distress, avoidance, and disordered eating.
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