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Reasons why people stay in abusive relationships


#Abuse, #Depression, #Divorce, #Violence Updated on Dec 16, 2020
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Mrs Rechael Mbugwa

Psychologist

Nairobi, Kenya

Fear, Desire to be admired, Take the Blame, Low self-esteem, Isolation, They sacrifice for the sake of children, People or family expectations, Embarrassment, Dependency, Up bring Environment, and more...

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Some reasons why people stay in abusive relationships...



1. Fear of being alone and people talking about them.


2. Have a deep desire to be admired and appreciated either in words or actions.


3. They believe it when they are told by the abuser that they will never hit them again.


4. (Take the Blame) They believe it when they are told they are the cause of their beating.


5. Low self-esteem, When an abusive partner constantly puts someone down and blames them for the abuse, it can be easy for the victim to believe those statements and think that the abuse is their fault .


6. Love: So often, the victim feels love for their abusive partner . & have a desire to help, or love their partners with the hopes that they could change them.


7. They sacrifice for the sake of children or parents or public impressions.


8. Embarrassment It’s often difficult for someone to admit that they’ve been abused. J ust being know that the relationship is abusive despite the different impressions others have.


9. Dependency financial abuse is common, and a victim may be financially dependent on their abusive partner. Hence becoming hesitance to make a move.


10. Upbringing Environment A person may not know what a healthy relationship looks like, perhaps from growing up in an environment where abuse was common, and they may not recognize that their relationship is unhealthy.


11. People or family expectations: my friend and family told me marriage is for life. I should never embarrass them.


12. Isolation. A common tactic of manipulative partners is to separate their victim from family and friends. This causes them not to have anyone they can share with what is happening in their life. since they have no way out they remain in abusive relationships.



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To understand how to overcome the above reasons, watch the video below







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Rechael is a qualified Psychologist, based in Westlands, Nairobi, Kenya.

With a commitment to mental health, Mrs Mbugwa provides services in English and Kiswahili, including Awareness, Child and Adolescent Services, Conflict Management, Consultation, Counselling, Counselling (Family), Counselling (Trauma), Individual and Couple Therapy, Psychoeducation and Psychology (Counselling).

Mrs Mbugwa has expertise in Abuse, Behavioural and Emotional Problems, Bereavement and Loss, Child and/or Adolescent Issues, Death and Dying, Depression, Domestic Violence, Pre-Marital Counselling, Relationships and Marriage Problems and Trauma Counselling.

Click here to schedule a session with Mrs Mbugwa.












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