Finding Your Strength When Life Throws Shade
Even during difficult times, we can develop habits to become more resilient. Read on for tips like reframing negative thoughts, expressing emotions creatively, and taking care of our physical health.
Today was a rough day. On a whim, I wandered into a bookstore, not looking to buy anything but hoping to find a spark, a new way of seeing things. Casually browsing the shelves, I stumbled upon a familiar book by Admiral William McRaven.
As if by fate, the page I landed on displayed this quote: "If you want to change the world, you must be your best in your darkest times." It hit me hard. Isn't this exactly when we need a break, a chance to just be? Isn't expecting our best during our worst moments a bit harsh?
Then it dawned on me: Admiral McRaven is a former Navy SEAL. These folks are tough. Maybe that's the point. Maybe by understanding their approach, we can learn to be a little more resilient ourselves.
Navy SEAL training is notorious for being brutal, but it's heavily focused on mental fortitude even more than physical strength. This train of thought led me to a question: can we develop habits to become better versions of ourselves, even when we feel like giving up?
Beyond the Bottle: Feel-Good Chemicals Naturally
One reason substance abuse is so prevalent is the desire to escape unpleasant emotions. The problem is, addiction is a dead end; it doesn't address the root cause of our pain. Luckily, there are healthier ways to boost our mood.
Exercise, meaningful conversations, spending time with loved ones, even petting a furry friend - all these activities trigger the release of endorphins, our body's natural feel-good chemicals. So, next time you're feeling down, consider these options as an alternative.
Shifting Your Perspective: Maybe Not vs. Not Yet
Our brains are wired to make connections based on past experiences. Sometimes, a negative interpretation of a situation can trigger emotions based on similar events in the past.
Here's the key: we can choose to reframe our thinking. Instead of "This is terrible," try "This is challenging, but I can overcome it." It might sound simple, but a shift in perspective can have a dramatic impact on how we feel.
Taming Your Thoughts: Talk to Yourself Like a Friend
Your brain is constantly seeking information. The kind of information you feed it shapes your reality. If you constantly tell yourself you're a failure, guess what? Your brain believes you.
This negativity can lead to a lack of motivation and a shutdown of your problem-solving abilities. Instead, try positive affirmations. Tell yourself you're strong, capable, and worthy.
Express Yourself: Unleash Your Inner Artist
Trauma expert Bessel van der Kolk emphasizes the power of art and drama in healing. It's no surprise that these practices are common in communities that have faced hardship.
Art therapy allows us to express emotions that might be difficult to put into words. Sing, dance, paint, write - whatever helps you release your feelings.
Taking Care of Yourself: Body and Mind
When we're struggling, self-care often goes out the window. But remember, a healthy body supports a healthy mind. Make sure you're eating nutritious foods, getting enough sleep, and exercising regularly.
Don't be afraid to lean on friends and family for support. Taking care of yourself physically will give you the strength you need to navigate emotional challenges.
A Brighter Tomorrow
Life throws curveballs, but you are stronger than you think. By incorporating these tips into your daily routine, you'll be better equipped to weather any storm. Remember, even when things are tough, you can still strive to be the best version of yourself.
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